Many people don't know what they want or what they don't want. They consume their youth in doing nothing, and occasionally panic.
Do you often do this?
For example, I spent a whole weekend in a daze. In retrospect, I almost always stayed at home, eating, sleeping, watching dramas and watching my mobile phone. I didn’t do anything. Countless hours passed.
When you look back, will you feel ashamed? Will there be a great sense of guilt?
It's all because you didn't clearly realize what you don't want, and what you want.
When I looked back on the five years I was 20 to 25, I realized that there are five things that young people must do.
The first thing is to refuse all the things you don’t want.
Many people think they know what they don’t like.
In fact, this is not the case. Sometimes it is not difficult to know what you like, but it is especially difficult to figure out what you don't want or like.
why? It is because, in this era, too much information propaganda often makes you lost.
What you think you "like" and "want" may only be "what you think" is the "false sense of mission" forced by your parents, school, society, and people around you.
After several years of advocacy, you have even regarded "what you don't like" and "what you don't want" as your dreams.
This is the most dangerous.
Therefore, after the age of 20, the first thing to do is not to ask yourself what your dream is, but to figure out what you don’t want.
If you refuse to reject these unwanted things, the latter will not be discussed.
Second thing, find out the one or two things you "must"
I had a quarrel, and at the end of the quarrel I said:
"In your eyes, this is a business, in my eyes, it is something I must defend."
After many years of creation, I increasingly want to understand what I want, I want to "create", I want to "leave something", this is what I have to do, and there will be too many factors that will destroy these things.
Find out what you "must want" and ask what you want most in your heart.
To the point where "no one is allowed to tarnish a single trace."
When you finish the first thing and know when you don't want to, then finish the second thing is that your future is already in your hands.
The third thing is to set up an executable plan and plan for your goals
It is the saddest thing to only know what you want, but not to go out for what you want.
This is something very commonplace. At the beginning of the month, I held an event. Someone asked me how to transform into a self-media or become a writer, what books do I need to read and what lessons?
I only asked one question: how many articles have you written completely?
The other side changed his opinion: what should I do if I can’t stick to it?
Let me ask again: Can you still call the goals and dreams that you can’t stick to as things you like?
Executable plans and plans refer to tangible and practical operations. If you want to be a powerful person, you must have lofty ideals, but you must implement every step.
Remember that you must not only have lofty ideals, and forget the step in front of you.
The fourth thing is to find a group of like-minded people and stick with you
Last night, I drank with my good buddies and talked about something, and I was very emotional.
Last summer, three of us boys formed a group to supervise each other and write things. Those who did not complete the plan on time, not only sent red envelopes in the group but also sent "shame" Weibo.
Later, the three of us did not continue this supervision in the group, not because we did not persist, but because the three of us have achieved better development in their respective fields, and there is no need to supervise.
We were very emotional last night. We were just beginning that year, and we were a little confused about the future. We were in a turbulent period. Over a year has passed, and we have all achieved good development.
This is what we deserve.
Thinking back, the reason why we are all developing rapidly is because we are encouraging each other and seeing others persisting. As a member, how can we be embarrassed to fall behind?
We must find this group of like-minded people, and we must stay away from people with different beliefs.
The fifth thing "stop loss in time" is sometimes greater than your "save face"
A lofty ideal must be persevered, and there are countless small goals in the realization of the lofty ideal.
These small goals may sometimes conflict. Many times, some small goals or projects that consume your time and energy too much, from a long-term perspective, on the contrary, delay or even hinder your lofty ideals.
Do not insist on these things meaninglessly, stop losses in time, and cut off the people and things that waste your time and energy, so that you can get out of your body and mind and return to your lofty ideals.
Don't think that interrupting small goals is giving up, and sticking to these unnecessary and ineffective goals is giving up your lofty ideals.
You have to make decisive decisions.
Finally,If you have anything you want to say, write it here. I will read it. I am your good friend next door.
In your life after the age of 20, you have to start making your own decisions.
